Teaching and Sweet Talking

April 25, 2013

As a teacher, you really have to know how to handle students. You can yell, scream, lecture, and punish, but how often does that really work? Does it work for adults? No, but too many teachers and leaders think it does work for kids.

What really works to get others to do what you want is sweet talking. I know it would absolutely never happen, but teachers need to learn how to sweet talk as a part of their teaching training.

If you can sweet talk a student, then you are already close to getting that student to pay attention, follow directions, and learn. I need to explain what I mean by this, of course.

First, sweet talking doesn’t mean romance in anyway. It also doesn’t mean manipulation or anything unethical. How to sweet talk in the educational setting means connecting with the student in a special way.

For example, if you know a student enjoys sports, then sweet talking could involve building rapport through sports. If a student is having a bad day, then sweet talking could involve asking about that and trying to help make a day better.

But, sweet talk must come from a genuine relationship with the student. Teens can see through bull shit pretty quickly. So, if you’re going to use sweet talk and be a little slick, make sure you already have a good relationship established.

So, teaching and sweet talking aren’t opposed. In fact, try sweet talking to get students to do what you want. In many cases they’ll actually like it and like you even more.


Schools Need Alpha Males

April 19, 2013

At the school where I once taught, there has been a concentrated effort to weed out the male teachers, especially the most popular ones. The leadership is very feminized and it shows in the way the school is run. Getting rid of men is only one aspect.

I believe these school leaders, both men and women, fear the alpha male. They have a certain leadership brand that emphasizes feminized qualities. Alpha males certainly threaten that brand. And, in schools, there is no room for discussion in any way.

It isn’t simply that a weak principal doesn’t know how to be an alpha male or something similar. Rather, the modern day school leadership often opposes alpha male leadership on various grounds. A lot of it is radical feminism at work. And, radical feminists hate alpha males with a passion.

But, schools need alpha males. The boys need to see what positive, confident leadership looks like. The males need to know how to be men without being wimpy on one hand or jerks on the other. Also, the female students need to see what confident, strong, and moral leadership looks like. Many of them don’t see it in the home because they don’t have males in their home!

So, schools need alpha males. Many of them badly. Some students won’t have a male teacher until they’re ready to graduate. Why this is considered acceptable is beyond me.


Dating and Schools

April 18, 2013

Students have one things on their minds typically. And, in most cases it isn’t education. Most teens are focused heavily on dating and romance while they’re in school. However, schools typically fail teens in this regard.

Typically students are subjected to politicized sex education classes, meaning they get a biological version of it that encourages them to have sex or an abstinence only message that doesn’t really work.

I wish schools would actually help students with the dating game. Yes, it’d be nice if schools taught basic dating advice for men and women. Before you think I’m crazy just realize that schools need to teach social skills. Look at how badly that’s needed.

Would I want to hear dating advice from an old crusty teacher if I were a teen? Probably not. But, schools could bring in an expert who knows what he’s talking about who is young and cool.

Teens, especially guys, could use to learn a little about the dynamics of dating and how to be attractive. Trust me, most young men and women get no advice or tips on dating outside of their parents. And, in many cases, their parents have just as lousy social skills as they do.

So, it may sound ridiculous, but schools could use to address social skills such as dating with their students.